Astrology + Soft Life = The Glow Up You Deserve

I’ve Always Attracted Men Who Gave… Something

Some gave gifts.
Some gave excuses.
Some gave broke philosopher energy and deep eye contact—but couldn’t give a full tank of gas.

And I took it all in stride, because I didn’t yet know I could filter love by chart—not just chemistry.

I’ve had generous men. I’ve had broke-but-potentially-brilliant men.
But the thing was—it was all random. Haphazard. Vibe-based chaos.

One day I was getting flowers delivered to my job for no reason.
The next, I was splitting a plate of wings with a man who claimed he was “in between blessings.”

Then Came the Divorce—and the Deep Realignment

I got married in my "maybe this is what love is supposed to feel like" era.
A beautiful wedding. A decent man. A whole lot of misalignment.

Let me be clear: he wasn’t evil. He just wasn’t equipped.
And I wasn’t equipped with the tools to vet him.

But if I had read his full birth chart before marrying him, I never would’ve said yes.
I would’ve understood why I felt emotionally dry even when things looked “fine.”
Why I was doing more, asking less, and still feeling unseen.

That divorce taught me the first rule of dating in my feminine power:
No more guessing. I need the blueprint.

Enter: Birth Chart Field Research

Once I understood astrology—not the TikTok memes, the real placements—I started collecting data like a soft life scientist.

I pulled charts on every man I could remember:

• The ones who paid my rent just because I looked stressed.

• The ones who made me feel like asking for a birthday plan was “too much.”

• The emotionally generous ones who weren’t flashy, but always made me feel safe.

And let me tell you—patterns popped out.

The Generous Men? They Had This in Common:

• Venus in Taurus or Leo: Physical comfort, consistent affection, provider instinct

• Jupiter in the 2nd or 4th House: Money flowed to them and through them

• Moon in Earth or Water signs: They were emotionally grounded, not erratic

• Capricorn or Libra in key placements: They took partnership seriously

But here’s the spicy part…

The “Looks Good on Paper But Is Lowkey Stingy” Men?

So many of them had Cancer placements—but not Cancer Suns.
I’m talking Cancer Moon, Cancer Mars, or Cancer Venus.

These were men who:

• Looked like providers but loved being admired more than being accountable

• Gave just enough to feel adored—but not enough to be dependable

• Were generous in public, but emotionally bare when it mattered

And I’m not saying all Leo placements are red flags.
I’m saying: watch how Leo energy shows up.
Because when it’s immature, it’s all performance, no provision.

Astrology Helped Me Get Intentional—and Irresistible

Once I saw the pattern, I stopped settling.
Stopped “seeing where things go.”
Stopped accepting energy that felt like a placeholder, not a partnership.

Now, I read charts before I let a man plan the second date.
And not because I’m judging—but because I’m filtering for alignment.

Because I know what generosity feels like in my body.
And I know what it looks like in a birth chart.

Why I Share This With You

I know you’ve had a few generous ones, too.
I also know you’ve probably made excuses for the ones who looked like they could be, if only they tried harder.

But let me ask you:
What would shift if you stopped guessing who a man could be—and started reading who he actually is?

What would happen if you used your chart, and his, to finally call in love that aligns with your standards, your softness, and your soul?

Final Word: No More Dating Blind

If you’re tired of the emotional gamble.
If you’ve done enough “learning lessons.”
If you’re ready to date with clarity, softness, and strategic seduction…

Start with your Sun-Venus Love Map—it’s free.

Her SoftPower Astrology
Because “vibe check” is cute—but birth chart check is divine strategy.